To truly care, we need to love and nurture ourselves and express the love that we have for ourselves and everyone else. When we hold a quality of love within us first the quality of care we give is equal to that love.

We hold people in love in the way we talk to them and the way we move, the way we plump the pillow, or get a glass of water. Love is conveyed in the way we touch a person we may be caring for as we wash, dry and assist them with dressing. It is this care that moves us to be non-imposing and respectful of where another is at and what their needs may be. 

Most of us would have a routine for self-care whether we are aware of it or not and we would all have been in the situation at some point in our lives when we have had to care for another. No matter the level of our self-care, most would agree that it is an area that we could all give more attention to.
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Let's start the conversation and inspire each other to not only self-care but to truly care.
We invite you to click on 'Comments' below and share your experience of true care.

If we understood that everything in our existence is transitory then we would be able to accept that changes to the way we live and our relationships with family and friends will not remain fixed in any way. We would then be more open to accepting the changes that signal to us that impermanence is part of the natural flow of life.
 
But how often do we hear the saying, “I hate change . . . I wish things could always stay the same’!
 
When we are not willing to accept change, it may be that we are feeling anxious about the future, or that we are clinging to our need for stability and security.

Do we have an inbuilt trait to want to control life’s happenings?
 
Our topic of conversation for this month is an opportunity for our readers to comment on how we feel about the impermanence of life. We invite you to share your experiences of how impermanence has shaped the way you live, and how you have responded to changing circumstances in your life.

​This month we continue with our topic of conversation  'Our Future, Let’s Celebrate,' and we are keen to hear from our readers what you see there is to celebrate in your Elder Years.

When we were younger celebrating might have been something exciting like a birthday party with all its ‘bells and whistles’, or it might have been any event that was exciting and stimulating – usually needing ‘others’ to join in the celebration. Now in our elder years ‘celebrate’ has taken on a deeper meaning: to honour, observe, recognise, acknowledge and appreciate the beauty of us being in ‘Full Bloom’.

Before posting a comment you may like to read our new  article on the Wisdom of Elders page, 'Beauty in Full Bloom'.

To add to the conversation, please click on the 'Comments link' below the 'Like' Button.

It is really important, as we move into our elder years, to give our life meaning and to stay committed to living a fully engaged life.   

Learning and growing is not just the domain of the young, we are just as capable, if not more, of beginning a new phase in learning and growing in our elder years. This is the time when we can explore more deeply what interests us and all those things that we would have loved to have done that we had previously been too busy to include in our life.  

All of this contributes to us having a beautiful purpose as we age by developing a deeper understanding and realisation of what life has to offer us. 

It is up to us to change the pictures and labels that we may be carrying around ageing, and to alter the reality of how many of the aged are treated, so that we are setting the model for generations coming after us. We invite you to share with us how you are remaining committed to living a fully engaged life.  Perhaps you would like to share how you are learning and growing through exploring more deeply what you had previously been too busy to include in our life. We look forward to reading your comments.

Before posting any comments if you have not already done so, you may also like to read the new article this month 'What Does Our Future Hold Part 3: How Can we Prepare for Our future?'

Whilst longer life spans are on the increase, and though we may celebrate this, is this really a good statistic, or is it that most older people are simply living longer in poor health and needing nursing home care for the later years of their life?
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How do you feel about this topic, ‘What Does the Future Hold’ for our elder generation and what are your experiences and ponderings as to how you will contribute to changing the present paradigm held by society?

Before posting any comments if you have not already done so, you may also like to read last month's article 'Ageing in Society - What Does our Future Hold?' and the new article this month '​​What Does Our Future Hold?  Part 2: Empowerment for Elders'.

​Some days are really bad and it is challenging for a carer to watch a loved one in distress not knowing if they are going to die today, tonight, in a few months, or in a year’s time. 
 
The carer needs to take great care to support their body because they have to be fit enough to handle these emotional ups and downs as well as being physically fit to do all the necessary tasks.
 
The more carers can support themselves, the more easily they can cope with the challenges each day presents.

​Please join our conversation topic for this month and share any experience where you have  been in the situation of caring for a sick or dying person and if so, how did you cope?

You may also like to read this month's articles 'Good Days and Bad Days' and 'No True Care without Self Care'.

Image has become more and more important not only for women but for men as well. We are often judged by how we look, and we judge ourselves by comparing ourselves with others, and in doing so, many negative and harmful comments can be made, even in jest, that we can have deep reactions to. 
 
Our self-worth should not be influenced by any comment made from others, or even from ourselves, judging us from the outside.
 
Our new topic of conversation is Self-worth and Damning Messages. 

If you have had to live with negative comments from a period earlier in your life that have come back to play on your mind and within your body, this topic provides an opportunity to share your experience. Through expression we have the chance to let go of these hurts and claim that our true beauty lies within our essence.

Please join our conversation topic for this month and share any experience where you have  allowed yourself to be effected by negative comments from others.

​ Is vitality intrinsically linked to our well-being?

The statistics show that as a population, humanity is not doing so great when it comes to well-being, as up to 80% of the top five causes of death can be related to our lifestyle – that means they happen because of how we live. Or to put it another way: how we live and the choices we make every day affect our health and well-being which in turn affects our vitality levels. Does this mean that there is 80% of the population living without a sense of vitality in their daily lives?

These statistics are pointing to a very serious problem if many elders are living with a debilitating lack of vitaliy!

So, what does living with vitality mean to us in our elder years?  Is good vitality the result of us choosing to eat nutritious meals? Is it related to our lifestyle – that it is the result how we live? OR, could our vitality levels be the result of more than just eating and living healthily?  

Could there be a deeper explanation of why some people live with ongoing vitality and others struggle with life and have lesser vitality to enjoy their lives?

Please join our conversation topic for this month and share with us what you feel living with vitality means in your day to day life.

It is being proven that people who have one or more good friends are in better health than those who have only casual acquaintances or no friends. There are many studies showing the positive benefits of friendship on social, emotional and physical well-being. Having a strong circle of friends can be a good boost for ageing hearts and can help the body’s autoimmune system resist disease.

Casual friendships can help, but one very close friend can do so much to help relieve stress and depression as a close friendship provides emotional support as friends are relied on to give comfort, help and to share and inform each other of things that are happening in their lives.

In addition to emotional support, friendship can help enrich a person’s physical, mental and social health and help us adjust to changes through the rewarding and challenging times of life.
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In our conversation comments this month we would love to hear from you about your experience with a friendship or friendships – are they important and do you have a story to tell?

What are the consequences of the choices we make in life – does the quality of whatever we have chosen to engage with affect other people or do they just affect ourselves personally?  What is the full impact on the many relationships we live with daily if we live irresponsibly?

If responsibility pertains just to the self, are we then responsible for what we choose to associate with, who we choose to surround ourselves with, what we choose to give our attention to, even what we choose to fill our minds with? In honestly looking into how our choices can have a significant effect on the way we express and relate to others, we can see the impact of how the life we lead will impact on all others around us.

There are so many questions for everyone to personally ponder on, with utmost responsibility, we can also ask ourselves the question, does the quality of whatever we have chosen to engage with affect other people?

Very simply, there are two ways we can choose to live responsibly; either we can live with an energy that carries the quality of love, equality and harmony with all, which could be defined as a ‘good’ type of energy, or conversely, an energy that carries the quality of harm, imposition and separation, which could be defined as a ‘bad’ type of energy.
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Once we get our heads around the truthful fact that how we express, act and think, carries an energetic quality that is either harming or healing, we can begin to understand the enormity of the responsibility that lays with each and every one of us in the way we express in our daily lives.

We invite you to join our conversation and share what responsibility means to you.

Healthy Living and Wellbeing – what do these words reflect to us ?

Last month we launched our new Health and Wellbeing page on the Website with some great articles and this month we are adding in new articles to provide you with the chance to discern the concepts of Health and Wellbeing and how they impact on your life.
 
How can we define Health and Wellbeing? How do we achieve it? What does it look like?
 
Can we define healthy living as the actions and strategies we put into place to achieve optimal health? Are healthy living and wellbeing two different concepts?
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We need to look at how we are living and to be aware of everything that we do and all the choices that we make that will have an effect on our overall wellbeing and health.
 
This month’s topic of conversation continues with us unravelling what it means to enjoy true wellbeing in a healthy body. The comments posted have already started to delineate the difference between the two concepts, so please join our conversation topic to further develop our understanding.
 
                     We invite you to join the Conversation and share your comments.

​STILLNESS . . .  Turning my focus inwards, connecting to my breath and to ‘me’, became the beginning of an intimate and beautiful relationship with myself.
 
Our conversation topic for this month is continuing to explore STILLNESS and what effect, if any, it can have on our bodies.  Our focus articles for this month are Reaction, Anxiousness or Stillness and Building an Intimate Relationship with Myself.
 
These articles pose two questions for our readers to explore and comment on in the Join a Conversation.
 
Q:   Is it possible to develop an intimate relationship with one’s self by surrendering, to a deeper depth, to the feeling of stillness, tenderness and delicateness within our body?
 
Q:  Is it possible that when we choose gentleness and stillness over rushing and the busyness of our lives that our body reflects this choice in both our health and well-being?
 
We invite our readers to join in with our conversation topic and share with us all what stillness means to you in answer to the questions we have posed.  Can surrendering to stillness lead to a more intimate relationship with your self and can it contribute positively to our health and well-being?
 
Let the conversations continue . . .  

 STILLNESS . . . is there a deeper depth to feeling the stillness within then just stopping for a moment to recover from our busyness?  This month our Conversation Topic is presenting us with the opportunity to explore how important it is for us to really feel into, and connect more deeply with, our inner being.  As our feature article on Stillness tells us: ‘Stillness offers spaciousness. In that space I become aware of the beauty in harmony. I know that harmony creates a true foundation from which to live and breathe and any disharmony may affect this. In our busy-ness we can lose that sense of harmony.’
 
How many of us are as Jane expresses it: "I am aware too that embracing stillness is not always my way and that like Christopher Robin I say 'Busy, back soon' to stillness, allowing the human-being to be over-ridden by the human-doing'?
 
We invite our readers to join in with our conversation topic and share with us all what stillness means to you and, if you have gone into that deeper connection and feeling of stillness in your body, we would all love to read of your experiences.
 
Let the conversations begin . . . 

Adele’s article on the Joyful Ageing page has brought up many questions for our Joy of Ageing team and we felt it was a valuable topic of conversation for us to pursue this month.  We trust the following questions will stimulate the discussion around ‘Being Honest About my Age.’
 
As woman, have we ever been really transparent about our age? Is there a tendency of not wanting to tell others our age? Why do we like to hide ‘how old’ we are in years? Are we so locked into what society and the media tell us that we have to look like, and to be, at a certain age?  
 
Many women are concerned with how others will react when we tell them how old we are. Do we feel uncomfortable when we are not honest about telling our age? Is this because we feel age controls how I should be living as in "Am I living my life, or a life that someone else is asking me to live?” 
 
 If we are able to accept and claim whatever age we are at, we are not at the mercy of others’ reactions. When we receive comments such as: “You are not young anymore” which translates to “Don’t you even know that?” or “Act your age!” do we realise this attitude comes from the social conditioning of the stereotype of ageing?
 
Is it possible that we can be truly honest and transparent about our age, when we live fully and are true to ourselves, whatever our age, and not according to any external idea of who or what we should be?
 
 We invite you to and share your comments on this topic. Let the Conversation begin . . .