How often have you made a new year’s resolution and within a few weeks or months found yourself back in the old pattern doing exactly what you resolved not to do? You may have had the best of intentions but why is it so hard to stick to your resolve?
The first question to ask is: Where is the resolve coming from?
Or is it an impulse to deepen and expand, coming from something you feel naturally ready for and can feel yourself moving towards or possibly sensing it coming towards you, like an invitation from the future? There’s no trying or forcing, no disciplinary action or drive required, it’s just an allowing of what is ready to expand and what you are ready to say yes to.
So, what does the New Year represent? After all, it is the beginning of a new cycle, but what exactly does that mean? There are always opportunities for new beginnings and change. However, is there something about this first month of the new year that feels more significant? Or is it just a new day, like every day – ‘today is the first day of the rest of your life!’?
In fact, every month, every day, every moment is the opportunity to live a new cycle– we don’t have to wait until a new year to start a cycle!
When we are in tune with natural cycles such as the sunrise and sunset, the waxing and waning of the moon and the changing of the seasons, we become aware of the repetition of cycles and can live more in harmony with the rhythm and flow of life.
What if we were to embrace this first month of the year by taking stock, appreciating where we are at and clocking the things we are ready to discard, change or heal? Then, without plans or goals, we can allow the days to unfold, responding to whatever is there without stress or worry, without imposing on ourselves any ideas of what we think we should do or how we should be. When we offer ourselves the opportunity to live more of who we truly are rather than focussing on what is not us (including thoughts of what needs improvement, etc.), we allow what we are ready to discard to naturally fall away without any trying or guilt.
When we do deeply appreciate where we are at and confirm that, then we have a solid platform to expand from, and to invite in what’s next for us. That then becomes the point we move on from, rather than from a sense of dissatisfaction or disappointment, guilt or shame, or the need for improvement.
We can use this time at the start of the new year to deeply appreciate ourselves and our quality of living, deeply expand on who we truly are and let go of what is not working in our life.
Let’s welcome the new year with open arms and an open heart and a willingness to say yes to what’s next.
Sandra N., Ruth A., Judy F., Bernadette C., Australia.
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