Being your own best friend starts by you developing a great relationship with you! Caring or looking after yourself seems like such a simple thing to do. I mean how difficult is it to brush your teeth, exercise, eat well, etc.?
Yet how many of us take the time to really tune into our body and feel what would truly deeply nurture us, beyond these basic care necessities?
We live in our own body so shouldn't we know it better than anyone else? Doesn't it make sense to be your own best friend? For me it has been a long and winding road getting to the point of even listening to my body, rather than disregarding it.
Expressing how I felt was often difficult, even if I admitted to myself how I was feeling. Any issues (big or small) became internalised, as I was not great at dealing with confrontation, avoiding this at all costs. Or I would go into a big reaction and take things personally. My body was the loser as everything that happens gets registered at some level in the body. I don't think I'm alone in this, as the life we lead nowadays does not support us to be in connection with ourselves.
How then can you be your own best friend? This is something I've been pondering on lately, as I develop a healthier relationship with myself.
The relationship we have with ourselves is fundamental before we can have a great relationship with anyone else.
This is one of many jewels of wisdom I've learnt from ‘The Way of the Livingness’ workshops at Universal Medicine with Serge Benhayon. These presentations are offered for us to discern for ourselves whether they work or not, and for me they resonated strongly as being true. As I've made baby steps towards being more self -loving and connected to myself, my life has started to transform.
These are a few things I've learnt which have helped me be more connected, thus able to develop that vital relationship with myself:
• I learnt theGentle Breath Meditation® – 5 or 10 minutes once or twice a day is fine.
• I have more awareness of my own body and I notice how I feel.
• Daily practice of Esoteric Yoga is so supportive in helping me to connect deeply with myself.
• Accepting what I feel, not trying to change it, and thereby honouring it.
• Learning to trust myself, letting go of the inner saboteur who tries to trip me up, it's the one, for example, who tries to tempt you to eat something you know doesn't support you.
As you develop a relationship with yourself, you start to notice and appreciate yourself for the things you do well, rather than the things you don't do as well, (we can't all be good at everything) and we all have something to offer.
What sort of qualities do we appreciate in a good friend? How about trust, loyalty, fun, truth, harmony, love and always being there when you need him or her? All of these qualities and more are in each and every one of us in our essence. It's so worthwhile to connect to them, to develop and live them, and then being your own best friend is easy.
Sue G., UK