It can be fun preparing for passing over!
That might sound crazy because passing over is usually perceived as something scary, unknown, surrounded by sadness and often suffering and misery… Many people do not want to deal with passing over or prepare their affairs for it – like wills, medical directives etc. Many don’t even want to talk about it.
I was not stressed or panicked and had just learned in one of Serge Benhayon’s Ageless Wisdom presentations that the energy and the way in which you pass over and leave your matters behind is how you (or what you) come back to in the next life.
In the process of bringing my papers, affairs and belongings in order I realised that there is no reason to wait until you are either very old and possibly sick or tired, or are suddenly told that you might have only a short time left.
You can enjoy the order and clarity in your life that results from being prepared for death and have your house cleaned and cleared out, at any age and time of life. Most people don’t like to consider it, but anything can happen at any time – an unexpected accident and you might be either dead or disabled, or in a coma, and unable to deal with these matters.
It does not matter if I have a few months or a few years left. I am ready within myself and prepared with all worldly matters. And that feels just great! When the time comes and I can’t deal with papers and belongings much anymore I can just focus on surrendering and being with the process and keep doing/being what I am still able to. I won’t have to push my body.
So I recently started getting my papers in order and sorting out and clearing my house, including the garage and under the house. If you feel daunted by de-cluttering your house there is great help available on and offline. I made sure I was not expecting myself to do it all in a couple of days.
So I did a cupboard at a time, maybe a couple of drawers and slowly worked my way through the house. This way I was not overwhelmed with making too many choices and letting go of things. I felt so good doing it that I looked forward to the next day clearing another area.
And it felt quite easy to let go of things, easier than I remembered from previous de-cluttering efforts. I pulled so much stuff out and got rid off it, also things from my friend Judith who passed over a couple of years ago, which I hadn’t yet been able to let go of, and it felt wonderful and very freeing. I keep going through things once in a while because each time I am able to let go of more stuff. I couldn’t believe how many things I keep around me that I never use, and all the ‘dust catchers’ I call them, crystals, statues, and knick-knacks… I did not get rid of everything. I decided to keep some things that feel good and that I really like.
It was and is just wonderful to feel the increased clarity and simplicity around me after each area is completed. Why would you wait to have that in your life?
To have all my needed papers filled out and ready – my Will, Advanced Care Directives, Enduring Guardian, Power of Attorney, a list with ‘what is where’, including passwords, accounts and numbers, who to notify after I pass over – gave a feeling of completion, peace of mind and readiness.
Most people aren’t aware of the level of detail required to pass over. For instance most people don’t even know what an enduring guardian is.
An Enduring Guardian is a person you appoint to ensure that your medical wishes are carried out when you can no longer communicate them. These wishes have been written down in an Advanced Care Directive, which is a legally binding document in NSW.
The person you appoint as your Power of Attorney on the other hand looks after your financial and material matters when you can’t do it yourself anymore. The Executor of your will plays yet another role, making sure the wishes in your will are honoured after you have passed over.
I feel these were all matters I tended to avoid and also I was not aware of the importance of expressing my last wishes clearly and precisely and how I want to be cared for and die. And I was not aware of the responsibility of what I was leaving behind for others to deal with.
I have no children so did not have to consider them. But if I did, I would have felt deeply into whom I really wanted to look after my kids should I suddenly not be able to. I would have put that clearly on paper and not leave it to the authorities or others to decide what happens to my children, which makes it even more important to get everything legally onto paper, at any adult age.
It is good to review all those papers once in a while and also feel deeply into who you feel is best to be your power of attorney or your enduring guardian. Your circumstances and relationship/connection to people can change over time and your papers will need to be adjusted to reflect these changes.
Since my blood family are all in Germany it was easy to not get caught in the pressure of the conventional ways to automatically appoint family members to certain positions such as my Power of Attorney, Enduring Guardian or Executor. I deeply feel that I can totally trust the people I chose to do their best to adhere fully to my wishes.
I have also bought my coffin. Since it was not so easy to get one for my friend Judith who passed over two and a half years ago, I felt to be prepared so I wouldn’t have to deal with it at the last minute. It was not easy to find someone who was willing to sell one coffin. The companies making them don’t want to sell only one because they are under pressure from the funeral parlours to sell only wholesale to them.
The funeral companies don’t want them to sell to individuals because they don’t want to lose the business when people do their own funerals or cremations.
I managed to get a single cardboard coffin that is now in my garage. I am using it for storage until the time comes that my friends will put my body into it and drive it to the Crematorium.
I am accepting and okay with the fact that I will die, sooner or later, and I have fully surrendered to that. I feel it as a natural part of the cycles of lives.
At this point I feel to focus on opening and deepening my expression and to share more of myself with friends, community and humanity. And to share what I’ve learnt, to be where I am now from where I have been ‑ a total life change.
Sooner or later I won’t be able to look after myself and do everything myself anymore, but that is okay. I already need to hire people to help me in the house and the big garden. I used to do most things myself and keep a close eye on my finances because I expected my superannuation needed to last another twenty-plus years as all the women in my mother’s lineage lived until close to ninety and over. But I won’t have to worry about that now.
I know I have the most amazing community around me and I will be looked after until my last breath. That’s how blessed I am.
Ingrid L., Australia