You may like to read Learning to Slow Down about Susan’s journey with breast cancer before reading this companion article.
As is often the case in life-changing events, everything that took place during and after my breast cancer diagnosis had an impact on my family.
It was a gorgeous sunny day when I arrived at her house in Suffolk and we gently sat down with one another in the summer sun. I love my family dearly and it was heart-warming to be in her company.
As we settled into catching up with one another over a cup of tea, I introduced the subject of my recently diagnosed cancer, and I was reassured by her composure. Yes, she did have a few tears but in no way was I swamped with emotion – the love in which we hold one another was something that surpassed any kind of imposition which could have been a diversion and a contraction. Once we had spoken the words that were needed to convey how we felt, the energy was clear and holding and we resumed our conversation.
After a little while had passed I next discussed my cancer with my grandchildren as it felt important to not have any sense of secrecy – to live life transparently allows the space for true love to be nurtured.
As I was not seeing my son for a week or so I decided to phone him and let him know and it was beautiful that he totally understood my feelings about not holding back on sharing with him even though I would have rather been physically together.
It feels like an important part of the process to put things in place as in this way I feel everything can work harmoniously to support all of us in the family so that everyone has a full understanding of the process and that there are no gaps in the information.
Whilst telling my family was very important for me, it was also important to claim that we are all connected throughout the Universe. We are not born to live alone or to withdraw from life, as this is contrary to what we innately know.
Many of us have been brought up to believe that we, and our planet earth, are the centre of the Universe and yet this is not the truth that I now understand. We are simply a speck in the ever-expanding cosmos.
The Universe is a magnificent reflection. When I look into the sky at night – and sometimes during the day – I know that the stars and planets are there including this very minuscule planet that we call earth. The whole of the universe is in constant motion, yet everything follows a flow and order.
Having a perspective of the whole allows us to become united and equal with every other human being on this planet – it is no longer me and mine in isolation to the bigger picture. And when we come together in harmony and in unity we can feel how each of our particles vibrate and communicate the delicate and vital being that we incontrovertibly are.
This understanding has supported me to accept what happens to me as a minor event and that in only a few years this will also be perceived as a speck and nothing of any great import. I find this allows me to step back into my true role on this planet where I play a small part in a very big play that will one day return us to our original source.
Susan L, UK
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